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I really don’t get the idiom, “have her cake and to eat it too.”
Well duh! Why would you want a cake if not to eat it? The statement seems to always hold negative connotations, and it’s so stupid! Why is it wrong to want cake? What in the world would you want it for if not to eat?
I feel it ties into the notion that pleasure is sinful. Or that it is ok to have desires for yourself, but don’t ask for too much. Whaaaah?
The scary thing is that I used to buy into that notion.
Not anymore.
I choose not to feel guilty or ashamed for EATING (and enjoying) CAKE! Just saying’…
Julia said:
I have always prefered to eat my cake, or dessert – without the guilt!
I try to make my desserts count. I would rather have one really good one, with over the top as calories, once in a while, rather than have mediocre desserts all the time.
If you ever get down this way, I will take you out for marjolaine.
Julia said:
I am suddenly not getting your posts or follow up comments emailed to me. Is that something that changed with the new layout?
Glad you got some clarity on the idiom.
I still think one fabulous dessert is way better than lots of little ones!
postmormongirl said:
I always felt guilty about eating dessert – always felt like I was fat. But that attitude would lead to binging on forbidden foods and then feeling bad. So now I am working on eating my cake and feeling happy about it.
Ruth said:
I really think that’s important. The further along this journey I go, the more I realize hoe utterly destructive guilt is. I’m not talking regret, where you make a mistake learn from it and move on. But that horrible gnawing guilt that pesters me almost always. Sometime I even feel guilty for feeling guilty! How absurd! And completely destructive. Cognitively understanding that eating cake is no sin helps. Learning from my mistakes also helps, so I don’t eat the whole blasted cake. Mindfully reveling in the pleasure and nuances of the flavors makes helps promote my happiness.